Think through and describe the following in detail:
What have been your three greatest accomplishments? What about them made you feel accomplished?
What have been three times that you’ve felt fulfilled and happy in your life? What factors contributed to these feelings?
Next, refine these experiences into words.
Take the experiences you described above, and condense them into single words.
For example: If one of the times you felt most fulfilled was when you graduated from college, after struggling for a long time to get through school, you might list the words ‘education’ , ‘perseverance’ , and ‘hard work’.
Make a list below, in no particular order, and don’t worry if they’re repetitive or similar, just list them all out.
Finally, prioritize the list.
Take the list above, and start prioritizing.
Move the values that are most important to you up the list.
You can do this quickly by highlighting the word, and pressing CTRL X on your keyboard to cut; then click on the spot you want to drop it, and press CTRL V to paste.
This step is probably the most difficult, because you’ll have to look deep inside yourself.
It’s also the most important step, because, when making a decision, you’ll have to choose between solutions that may satisfy different values.
This is when you must know which value is more important to you.
Work from the bottom of the list up, and compare each two values as you move them up the list. Ask yourself: “If I could satisfy only one of these, which would I choose?”
It might help to visualize a situation in which you would have to make that choice.
For example, if you value family and stability, you might imagine a scenario where you must decide between taking a high paying, stable job in a state that’s far from your family, or staying close to your family but not knowing when you might find stability.
Do this until you have 3 values at the top of the list, that none of the others below can beat out.